Your relationship with your mom doesn't have to
rule or ruin your life

I help women in their 20s and 30s with mother/daughter trauma learn how to prioritize themselves and build the kind of relationships they actually want - ones rooted in mutual respect, trust, and genuine care.

My clients struggle like you do. They're the people-pleasers, the conflict-avoiders, and the "good" daughters that would rather give you the shirt off their backs than to see you go without something you needed or wanted - most people would never guess the way they're showing up in their relationships and friendships was masking deeper pain. But what's going through their heads and their hearts tells a very different story. 

When they first come in for therapy, they look like they've got the most incredible relationship with their moms. They do everything together, talk/text/Facetime multiple times a week, and their moms are so invested in making sure they have the best life possible. They usually have a ton of pride around being the best daughter they can be, making their mom proud, and in how close they are to their moms. 

But the more comfortable they get with me in therapy, the cracks in the mask begin to show. And the more it becomes clear just how exhausted they are from making their mom, and everyone else but themselves, happy. The more it becomes apparent just how much of a negative impact their mom's level of involvement in their lives is having on their self-esteem, their trust in themselves, and how they're showing up in all other areas of their lives. 

Often, having this kind of realization doesn't exactly bring on a warm and fuzzy feeling that makes them feel like they can suddenly take on the world with a new, shiny perspective. There's usually lot of discomfort and fear that comes up for them. "Does this mean I have to cut my mom off or that I'll never have a good relationship with her?", "I can't imagine her not being in my life!", and/or "I know she loves me deep down! Maybe I'm just overreacting or being dramatic and it's really not even that bad." All of these reactions to truly seeing an important relationship like the one you share with you mom are super normal and don't mean you've done anything wrong or that you're being a bad person or daughter for needing something to change. 

It’s okay to worry that by setting boundaries or prioritizing what you need to feel better about yourself, you’ll lose the connection you already have with her or maybe even make things worse. You may feel guilty for wanting things to be different or wanting space from her, or even worry that other people will think you're being selfish, cruel, or hateful towards your mom. 

One thing I'm here to tell you that I know to be true: You absolutely deserve to feel good about yourself and the way you're showing up in your relationships. And, if you didn't love your mom, you wouldn't be on a therapist's website reading this far down into their homepage blurb. You're a kind, caring, beautifully sensitive human and that's such a magnificent and power thing to be in this world.

You've kept the peace for so long for everyone else. It's time to offer that peace to yourself.

If you want to feel like your relationship with your mom finally reflects the trust and love you have for yourself, I'd love to help get you there.

Schedule a free consultation now. You don’t need to fear that taking care of yourself means losing love. I can help.